WITNESSING BIRTH/ FATHERHOOD

Witnessing Birth – Fatherhood   Scott McPherson email size

I am so blessed to be a family doctor.  I have the grand privilege of delivering babies, or rather, catching the babies.  It is marvelous to care for a woman who goes through the physiologic changes of first finding out she is pregnant until she feels like she is going to pop.  What a wondrous thing is procreation.  That new life, born within and delivered ready to be cared for.

Before I became a physician newborns seemed ugly, shriveled.  Now every new baby, despite their appearance, makes me smile and feel a great joy inside.  The are all beautiful.  There is amazing potential there, in that little squirming baby, seeing bright light for the first time.  They are born with great need, but give so much in being able to draw their parents to them.  Moms are connected to their babies even before they are born.  For dads, that first look at their new baby boy or girl cements a bond that is stronger than steel.

As a father of five daughters, I know that bond well.  Despite their difficulties growing up and my deficiencies growing up with them, they will always be my daughters.  I gazed on each one at their birth and wondered who they would become.  I look back over those years and smile, seeing how each one has plowed their own path.  That bond has to stretch and give a little.  It can be damaged and weakened, but I don’t believe it can be broken.

I love my daughters, as their father, and will always be proud of the women they have become.  To fathers who read this, you don’t have to be perfect.  Try to think of your children’s needs, in terms of your presence.  If there is anything I wish I could have done better, it is to have spent more time with each of my daughters.  We were never poor and they were never underfed.  They had all the “things” they needed, but they could have used more of me.

Today as I go to see that baby and talk to her parents, that is the message I will give.  Happy fathers day and love your kids.

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About smcpherson58

Aside from loving chocolate and coffee (not necessarily in that order) Scott McPherson has learned that he loves to write. He writes fiction and, so far, has published two novels. Scott has many varied interests, though he tries to focus on one at a time. He has worked for nearly thirty-five years as a family physician, a pass-time that gives him great pleasure and pays the bills. He has five daughters and dotes upon three grandchildren. Recently married, he really loves life. Scott writes from his life experiences and from travel. His career in the active Air Force was brief, but he has been a member of the Nebraska Air National Guard since just before 9/11 in 2001. The aftermath of that great disaster changed the face of the Guard and led to missions in far-away lands. He has spent time in Turkey, Iraq, Spain, Crete and Guam in missions related to support for Iraqi Freedom and Enduring Freedom. He has been to Iceland and Antarctica as well. Scott has no personal experience with violent death or murder, but has gained knowledge from experts. In his first novel, “A Step Ahead of Death,” his character, Jack Sharp MD, becomes embroiled in a murder mystery. First as suspect, then as amateur sleuth, Jack tries to make a difference. He finds himself right in the middle of an investigation well beyond the scope of a local murder. A man of faith, Scott traveled to Africa with his small family in the 1980s and served as a medical missionary in Zaire (known as Congo today) with a church organization. The vast difference in what it takes to exist in such an environment served as a basis for much of his second novel, a thriller, “Congo Mission.” His character, Jack, is twenty years younger than in the first novel. In “Congo Mission” Jack serves as a physician in a missionary hospital in the jungles of northwestern Zaire. There he is not only captivated by a young woman visiting the region, but falls victim to his nemesis Jacques Levant. His motivations and faith are tested and his resolve to do God’s work gets pushed to the limit. When he is not writing Scott enjoys walking, a practice that actually led to his first attempt at writing a novel. He began making notes and writing prose about the mundane things around him. He tried to make the details sound interesting, even though it was just for his own pleasure. Eventually he found that he could expand his prose to “what if?” “What if I just kept walking?” “What if I, or my character, found a dead body in the ditch along the side of the path?” That was the premise for the first novel, “A Step Ahead of Death.” Scott McPherson is an avid trombone player and has played since he was nine years old. He marched in the Cornhusker Marching Band at the University of Nebraska and now takes advantage of one free football game a year by playing in the half-time show with the UNL Alumni Marching Band. He plays in the Lincoln Civic Orchestra and a community band from the nearby town of Waverly, Nebraska. Scott loves to sing as well, though his range seems to have diminished in recent years. He has sung in college and church choirs and remembers performing parts of Handel’s Messiah as a highlight of his singing experience. One little-known fact about Scott is that he once sang soprano in a boys choir. Scott plans to keep writing as long as the ideas flow and others show interest in his stories. He loves to interact with other writers or readers about what has become a passion in his life. Reviews are always welcome as are questions and comments.
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